tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post903645362752396980..comments2023-10-20T08:03:50.579-05:00Comments on Blogging While Feminist: Journal of Lesbian Studies looking for submissionsPlain(s)feministhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-49578484037070913072007-03-12T14:32:00.000-05:002007-03-12T14:32:00.000-05:00Are body image issues involved in "lesbian bed dea...Are body image issues involved in "lesbian bed death"?<BR/><BR/>First of all, lesbian bed death, at least in my experience, has never been an issue in my relationships with women. However, I know some other lesbian couples who have experienced it. But, I also know straight couples who have stopped having sex completely. I’m not sure if this is purely a lesbian issue. Monogamy can be awfully boring, straight, gay, or bi. <BR/><BR/>I think it’s more of a cultural thing and applies to all women in general. There is a disconnect between our bodies and our experiences. I have a very difficult time getting out of my head during sex until I feel comfortable with the person. This takes time. Typically, sex gets better with time, not the other way around.<BR/><BR/>How does growing up identifying more with boys affect body image?<BR/><BR/>I wouldn’t be qualified to answer this because I’ve always identified with women more. When I came out as bi-sexual, family members said, “Well, I just can’t believe it, Sally S loved dolls and dressing up when she was little, she can’t possibly be gay/and or bi-sexual, it doesn’t make sense.” Haven’t these people ever heard of the L Word? Not all lesbians identify with a male image. What about femme’s? <BR/><BR/>Does loving a woman change your own body image?<BR/><BR/>Having loved both men and women equally, I can’t say loving women has changed my own body image, but it has changed my view of other women’s bodies *smiles*. I had a fairly positive body image before I was involved with women, yet, I’ve known plenty of lesbians who have a poor body image. I’m not sure if that’s because of their lesbianism or just society in general. Because lesbians have the same sexual problems straight women have in their relationships. (At least from what I’ve seen, experienced, and heard) Lack of communication about what each participant needs is fatal to any blossoming sexual relationship. My philosophy is, if we can’t talk about it, we shouldn’t be doing it. (literally)SallySunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17417077309361828475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-54036787752470460582007-03-11T11:32:00.000-05:002007-03-11T11:32:00.000-05:00Yeah, I thought quite a few of the questions were....Yeah, I thought quite a few of the questions were...interesting. Even leading, though I'm not sure that they were meant to be.<BR/><BR/><I>Do lesbians weigh more or do straight women weigh less?</I><BR/><BR/>Or are there other possibilities, such as, do lesbians weigh less and straight women weigh more? Or how about a question like "Are there weight differences between lesbians and straight women?"<BR/><BR/><I>How does growing up identifying more with boys affect body image?</I><BR/><BR/>Well, gosh, I guess they'd better ask some lesbians who identified more with boys growing up, eh? I mean, I know LOTS of lesbians who didn't. Kind of interesting assumption...<BR/><BR/><I>Does the coming out process help in validating your body and improving body image?</I><BR/><BR/>It seems pretty clear what the answers are that they're looking for - I mean, this <B>could</B> have said, "Does the coming out process AFFECT your body image?" Or, "HOW does the coming out process AFFECT your body image?"<BR/><BR/>Having written some of these things, I'm guessing that the editor is simply trying to suggest some lines of thinking and not necessarily tp enforce these conclusions. But it does seem a bit heavy-handed at times.Plain(s)feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-75333405567521513112007-03-11T00:48:00.000-06:002007-03-11T00:48:00.000-06:00What differentiates body image situations where it...<I>What differentiates body image situations where it is seen as desirable to change your attitude (i.e., "accept your body") vs. where it is seen as desirable to change your body (i.e., transsexual surgery)? What determines whether someone identifies as a butch lesbian or a FTM transsexual?</I><BR/><BR/>I knew! that was going to come up, and that they were going to relate the question to butch lesbians vs. FTM men (as though MTF lesbians don't exist??) and the second question is kind of hilarious. Um, if someone tells me they identify as a butch lesbian, that kind of determines it for me.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701924315897238428noreply@blogger.com