tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post8384621093312928373..comments2023-10-20T08:03:50.579-05:00Comments on Blogging While Feminist: More about breasts (and wigs).Plain(s)feministhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-72249857379059500282008-10-28T19:29:00.000-05:002008-10-28T19:29:00.000-05:00Green,I love knowing that you are here with dinner...Green,<BR/>I love knowing that you are here with dinner and flowers, in spirit! Re. Bean - well, as much as the grown-up members of this family have been through in the past month, the reality is that everything they are telling me is positive. So that's what we're telling him - that I'm sick, but that I'm going to get better, and that the medicine they're giving me is so strong and go good that it will also make my hair fall out and make me tired and not feel well sometimes. He seems to be handling it well. I'm sure that he'll have some reactions after the hair comes off, but he will get used to it. He doesn't like it when I'm tired and under the weather, but last night we resolved this by having him just crawl into bed next to me to fall asleep. There are definitely worse things!<BR/><BR/>Dave,<BR/>Your wife is lucky to have such a supportive partner. Please tell her there are lots of us sending her love and support and prayers.Plain(s)feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-30887918585626784012008-10-28T16:03:00.000-05:002008-10-28T16:03:00.000-05:00I just left the hospital room of my wifes in Toron...I just left the hospital room of my wifes in Toronto where she gets daily radiation and a daily dose of chemo. We have been battling this this blood cancer for over 4 years. Two years ago they asked her to consider a stem cell transplant as they could not defeat the rogue chromosomes. They asked her to bring me in to the discussion. She questioned why? "My husband does not have ownership on what I do to my body" she told them point blank.<BR/>Every medical decision is "discussed" with me after she makes the decision. She then fills me in on why she made that particular choice or chose that particular chemo regiment.<BR/>This is how it should run.<BR/>Her body, her choices!Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02250044610162724765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-58132770597372478092008-10-28T10:59:00.000-05:002008-10-28T10:59:00.000-05:00Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking good thou...Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking good thoughts for you. I haven't commented because I don't really have anything to say (though I wondered how you told Bean about what's going on, and how he's dealing with it). <BR/><BR/>If I lived closer I would bring you over dinner and leave flowers on your doorstep and stuff.Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931380770342598889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-18838855065126304342008-10-28T09:27:00.000-05:002008-10-28T09:27:00.000-05:00Octo -Thanks for both your comments - they are muc...Octo -<BR/>Thanks for both your comments - they are much appreciated!!Plain(s)feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-91978446187639608632008-10-28T00:27:00.000-05:002008-10-28T00:27:00.000-05:00PF -- thinking about you.I think you're making the...PF -- thinking about you.<BR/><BR/>I think you're making these decisions in a realistic and healthy way. Not carving out moralistic, prematurely fixed territory, but letting your gut drive you and allowing yourself to go with the flow. Much more gracefully than I can imagine doing myself in a similar situation.<BR/><BR/>I just read your earlier post. I am very sorry. Even though this will never really be in the past in total, it will be in the past someday in many ways. You will still be beautiful, or even more so.Octogalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052288318330285365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-8938696422308788002008-10-27T06:50:00.000-05:002008-10-27T06:50:00.000-05:00I thought of this the other night when we were wat...I thought of this the other night when we were watching a show about a woman attacked by a mountain lion. They actually threw it in there about what her husband would think of her appearance. Just be glad she's alive, sheesh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-25940429848365658982008-10-26T12:03:00.000-05:002008-10-26T12:03:00.000-05:00Lilo,Yes, it's crazy. This is where I think the r...Lilo,<BR/>Yes, it's crazy. This is where I think the radical fems are absolutely right - what does it tell us when a woman in this situation needs to worry that her male partner might have problems with the appearance of her breasts? And as you say, this is an issue that many women face, cancer or not cancer.<BR/><BR/>Lana,<BR/>Yep, big group setting, tvs and reclining chairs and warmed blankets. Very nice, very positive! And I am feeling good, thanks!Plain(s)feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-19557630343004587512008-10-26T11:15:00.000-05:002008-10-26T11:15:00.000-05:00Hi, I wanted to check in and see how you are feeli...Hi, <BR/><BR/>I wanted to check in and see how you are feeling. I hope that you are getting your chemo treatments in the same type of setting as my Dad had his. They put all the patients together in a big room. You could bring family and friends if you wanted. It was like impromptu therapy. To be with other people in the same situation for both the patients and thier people. <BR/><BR/>You and your family are in my thoughts, and I hope those mavericky maverick cancer cells lose the election.~*~Esmerelda~*~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13654889241583463998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-5710373782630631852008-10-25T22:33:00.000-05:002008-10-25T22:33:00.000-05:00That is so ridiculous. Doctors actually ask you t...That is so ridiculous. Doctors actually ask you to get your male partner's opinion on this stuff? <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you're not letting yourself be pressured into making decisions about your health and appearance for anyone but yourself. Not that I expected otherwise, it's just that I never really thought of that kind of pressure as a problem that went with cancer. But I guess it's really almost every woman's problem, though it takes many different forms.CrackerLilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176388186521154104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-25561364194312321512008-10-25T21:50:00.000-05:002008-10-25T21:50:00.000-05:00Well, there's that, too - I'm not really in search...Well, there's that, too - I'm not really in search of more medical bs. I'm not even in search of any more needle sticks, frankly, but I'll deal...Plain(s)feministhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15056404699624958898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20435429.post-71087315117810528322008-10-25T15:10:00.000-05:002008-10-25T15:10:00.000-05:00when i cut off my hair, that's what I did with it ...when i cut off my hair, that's what I did with it (gave it over for wigs), I figured, 22 inches of hair? Better use for it than ending up on the floor.<BR/><BR/>A relative of mine got no reconstructive surgery after her surgery. Her theory was she'd been through enough medical bs as it was, and if people had issue with her, they could kiss her ass.<BR/><BR/>She wore hats a lot, and got a tattoo on the side of her head.Renegade Evolutionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17905949172886730262noreply@blogger.com