Monday, June 04, 2007

Stirring Shit.

Lately, IRL and online, it seems that the groups I'm involved in are plagued by shit stirrers. You know what a shit stirrer is, right? A shit stirrer is someone who delights in manipulating people and conversations so that others will be upset, someone who cooks up drama for the sheer enjoyment of it or for personal gain. The shit stirrer is always pointing the finger at someone else, often several someone elses. When others get upset, they often discuss this with the shit stirrer, who gets to enjoy the extra attention and even to act as a confidant. Meanwhile, the shit stirrer can sit back, relax, and watch the fireworks fly.

IRL, it seems easier to catch on. There are the conversations held through back channels that can be compared, so that very quickly, one sees the shit stirring actually taking place. Online, it can be less easy, particularly when the shit stirring is taking the form of intelligent conversation. There, it can be hard to spot a manipulative discussion, particularly when it is happening within the closed community of a listserv or bulletin board in which the members have been together for a long time.

What is your favorite way to handle shit stirrers? After seeing the stocks at the Renaissance Festival, I'm thinking that it would be great to make shit stirrers wear a big red "S" on their clothes so that we could see them coming.


Renegade Evolution said...

mock them

SallySunshine said...

hee hee.. yeah, mock them.

Or ignore them. That can be really fun to. Refuse to address their replies, their questions, ect.. I think it’s really entertaining when their comments get through moderation and then no one acknowledges their presence or what they said.

Since the shit stirrers love the drama, let them fester in it by themselves.

I wish I would've made it to the festival, but it sounds like you guys kicked ass, I bet it looked amazing.

I'm bummed I won't be able to come to belly dancing this week...AGAIN..I'm going to Mlps with the fam for the weekend. Say hi to everyone for me! I'll be there the following week. ~SS

Anonymous said...

What was the shit regarding?

belledame222 said...

well, this is how i dealt when i accidentally hooked up to a nest of trolls:

Anonymous said...
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May 18, 2007 7:46 AM
Anonymous said...

Oh come on! My last post was deliberately provocative, but it was also an accurate reflection of the sort of commentary you get on blogs like his! Why the removal?
May 18, 2007 12:45 PM
Anonymous said...

I'm sad now.
May 18, 2007 12:45 PM
belledame222 said...

Because if I wanted commentary on blogs like his, I'd go -there.- This is -here-. and because I'm a cruel whimsical fuck.

Also, you need to pick a pseud.
May 18, 2007 12:51 PM
anomen said...

Your explanation is more than acceptable - I love cruelty, whimsy and fuck! I will also try to avoid the deliberate baiting of my previous post, but... it's... so... hard...
May 18, 2007 12:58 PM
belledame222 said...

o no, we -love- deliberate trolling around here. there's nothing more enticing than someone who's deliberately volunteered to be a human pinata. unless it's boring. which it usually is, pretty quickly.

I don't think that one came back, at least not in that incarnation.